Recently, while reading some ”My secret” column, you know the ones where a reader ask a question and the columnist answers and they are usual themes being love, cheating, marriage, etc, I found an interesting comment.
And, and painfully honest and real truth.
”—— my, God…It’s as it we are all characters in a Christmas play,and depending if we are the little child, or the young couple, or the old men watching, we are all passing through the same roles…today you are a lover to a married man, tomorrow you are comforting your friend who is being cheated by her husband, the day after you are checking your husbands mobile phone because he is acting kinda odd…then you get a divorce, then you first chase the younger meat, and then end up with a married man… And then you judge the first or the second or the third, depending with whom you are talking…and for all that time your children are getting older and starting the same circle from the start- it’s all the same people, just depends in which part of their life you caught up with them…Then and there, somebody steps out of the circle, and then everybody is shocked and can’t stop blaming them…”
I am a very liberal person, when it comes to others. I undestand cheating, lovers, men sleeping with other women, women staying with cheating husbands, I understand women playing around with other men, women. I really do- I don’t judge. I find no moral role there- and I despise that good old ”my man would never do that!” Oh, yes sister he would.
In my perspective, the problem is that you sister wouldn’t. Why? Who says that love lasts forever? Who says people can’t be friends with benefits and be happy about it? You’ll say- that always ends bad. So what, it ends. So what, it lasted while it lasted.
People get divorced. They stop loving each other. They stop wanting each other and start wanting somebody else.
So what?
Why judge it, why be shocked, why be disgusted by it?
Why the morality?
No, my parents didn’t get divorced. Yes they are still married. They are living countries away but still talk on Skype for 2h every day. But had they?
Had they found new loves?
So what?
Maybe there is something wrong with me.
Yes, I know, awful of me to condone adultery. But, if it works for the family…
I don’t believe in love forever. I do believe in chemistry among people, different people. You found your soulmate in the girl/boy next door? Ok, I’ll buy that. But one day you are going to move out, and realize that that one doesn’t fit anymore. People change, so it’s only normal that what we are looking for in people change.
Some people say that they find true loves in the same town, in the same street. Come on, take a look around! We just reached a population of 7 billion! Do you really think that you will never feel that spark for anyone in those 7 billion? Do you care to tell me that you know that for certain?
So, I don’t belive in forever. Nothing is forever.
It can be strong, you can live your life on it, but don’t put it into boundaries.
Don’t live your life in a cage just because it is moral, right thing to do, by god or by what ever you were taught up to believe.
Breake the mould, the cage and live your life, and don’t fool yourself with morality- it never did anybody any good.
As long as it is not punishable by law (and Criminal law by that) it’s allowed.
S.
- November 14
- , 2011
